In a polygamous relationship, convenience for the man, is elevated above commitment. If a man has two partners and there is something about his relationship with one of his partners that he does not like, he has the option of going to his other partner for a better experience. And the more partners he has, the higher his chances of never having to deal with anything he does not like about any of his partners. This is a very attractive type of relationship for the polygamous man because it feeds his carnal selfishness and greed.
Polygamy,
however, in the long-term is very unfulfilling for both the husband and his partners.
Commitment to a relationship only when it is convenient for you suffocates
growth of that relationship and the parties in it. Whether is it business,
education, faith, relationships, etc., undivided and unwavering commitment is
required for growth to be realised.
But since
polygamous relationships are designed to shield the polygamous man against
having to deal with most/any of his partner’s unpleasant or low moments, the
bonds formed in there are often shallow as the man and his partners never
really get to know and bond with each other.
Just
reflect upon your life and think about the people you hold dearest. How did
those people become so dear to you and when did that happen? Is there any
person you hold dear in your life on account of always being with you during
your happy and good times?
It is
during the low moments, the trying moments, in the midst of dealing with life’s
challenges that we all want someone in our life. And whoever stands with us
during those moments is the one we bond with most allowing them a very special
place in our life. For the partner of a polygamous man, this special bond with
her man is never realized because whenever a bonding opportunity avails itself
disguised as challenges, the man is somewhere else in pursuit of comfort.
As a
result, the polygamous man also never gets to experience affection from an
intimate partner offering it from the deepest depths of her heart because none
of his partners has allowed him that very special place in her heart because it
is reserved only for the one who will be there for her through the thick and
thins of life.
The
hollowness and lack of depth in connection between a man and his partners in a
polygamous relationship is something many of us today are also experiencing in
our relationships with family and friends.
No comments:
Post a Comment